Learning to be patient

Ok so here is where we are at the moment, we have been officially trying for about 3 weeks now and I know how impatient this sounds but I can’t help feeling surprised that I’m not pregnant yet! I know, I know this is the talk of a crazy person and it doesn’t just happen as soon as we decide we are going to try.

I have heard many stories about friends of friends of friends who decided to stop taking the pill and BAM became pregnant within the first week!  This got me thinking about a film I saw recently ‘He’s just not that into you’ the leading lady convinces herself that her bad relationships will all work out in the end because someone once told her a friend of a friend of a friend who they know who’s boyfriend cheated on her completely changed and now they are married and in love and ridiculously happy ß This is the exception to the rule! For the most part men who cheat on their girlfriend’s won’t change and vice versa so why am I tormenting myself with impatient thoughts wondering why am I not pregnant yet? I am not the exception, I am the rule and the rules state:

The Stats

Statistically a healthy, fertile couple have a 1 in 20-25% chance of conceiving at each cycle, with approximately 80% falling pregnant within 12 months of actively trying. This approximately translates to 25% of couples getting pregnant in the first month of trying, 60% within 6 months, 75% within 9 months and 90% within a year and a half.
(care of www.askbaby.com)

Let me just re-assure you, I am not naive and know full well that the chances of falling pregnant within the first couple of months are slim but when you make that decision that you want to start a family that tiny little part of you, the same part that can’t wait until the cupcakes are cool to eat one, the same part that shakes Christmas gifts under the tree to guess what they might be – that part of you wants it now!   

My mother being the wonderful woman she is offered me some words of wisdom, she said:

‘Instead of thinking about it as trying to get pregnant,
think of it as not trying to stop yourself getting pregnant’

I’m going to start thinking of it this way (shhh even though I know it’s pretty much the same thing!), it seems to take some of the pressure off somehow! Stress levels play a major part in conception so the more I can de-stress the better, maybe ill have a nice long hot bubble bath later and really unwind!